The primary purpose of marriage is two fold:
- Progression (Anushruti, Vol.1:33).
Good progeny is possible through the principles of eugenics which implies that compatibility between the bride and groom is essential. But, in the present social trend, it gives an impression that marriage should be an outcome of mutual consent rather than a systematic matching process.
Sree Sree Thakur Anukul Chandra compares the marital matching with that of chemical combinations. We have to know the property and character of every chemical substance before combining them in an appropriate manner. Similarly, before solemnising marriage between a male and female, the personal and hereditary characteristics of both need to be analyzed for appropriateness of good progeny. Progeny (janan) and nation (Jaati) are interlinked with marriage. So, converting marriage into a child’s play could invite destruction. (Alo. Pras. Vol.4 : 23-10-1942)
For marital matching, the first and foremost consideration should be given to genetic compatibility. The social codification of genetic strains is Varna. Hereditary factors need to be meticulously analyzed in this consideration. If you develop reverence after this consideration, then match for their health along with their nature, habits and behaviour. If all these get matched, then consider for education as a measure for ability level. If all these get matched, there is les
For marital matching, the first and foremost consideration should be given to genetic compatibility. The social codification of genetic strains is Varna. Hereditary factors need to be meticulously analyzed in this consideration. If you develop reverence after this consideration, then match for their health along with their nature, habits and behaviour. If all these get matched, then consider for education as a measure for ability level. If all these get matched, there is less chance of being cheated. (Anushruti, Vol.1:2)
While marriage in same clan should be preferred, marriage in same lineage (gotra) needs to be avoided. If gotra is not known, then a lot of marriages get solemnized amongst the same gotra. The progeny from same gotra-marriage usually becomes dwarf and deteriorate both mentally and physically (Alo. Pra. Vol. 7: 3-2-1946)
It is observed that usually roman catholics accept brides from protestants but do not give their brides to protestants. (Alo. Pra. Vol.9:12-7- 1947) A royal family tries to maintain matrimonial relation with a royal family. Similar practices are also followed in Muslim and other communities.
Sree Sree Thakur tells, “However big a person may be, if his marriage is not properly solemnized and if he is not able to leave behind a good progeny, then it amounts to extinction of his own chain of accomplishments along with his death. It is not that the accomplishments of many a persons are not maintained for a long time through their disciples or admirers; but if worthy children or progeny are there, then the blood chain gets maintained and if there is no digression in their education or marriage, many a good qualities flow through heredity. Otherwise, it would not be possible to sustain the prosperity of a race or nation in spite of achieving higher credentials. (Alo. Pra. Vol.4:8-9-1946)
Sree Sree Thakur says, “Marriage is not a matter of contract, but it is solemnly needed to draw one in the bosom of one’s heart with all service and caressing attitude. When marriage is solemnized with a compatible chaste female of similar clan, it becomes the elixir of life.” He further mentions, “Good progeny out of adjusted marriage is the animated Vol.08/01/02 Good progeny out of adjusted marriage is the animated wealth of country that makes a country prosperous with eternal improved becomingVol.08/01/02 Page No.2 Editor: Prof. T.K. Jena, G-2, Yamuna, IGNOU Housing Complex, Maidan Garhi, New Delhi-110068, E-mail: email@example.com , Ph. 09818514907 Co-editor: Dr. D.C. Patra, 84/10, Gokuldham, Goregaon (East), Mumbai-400063, E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org , Ph. 022-28797122 See-ence www.srisrithakuranukulchandra.com wealth of country that makes a country prosperous with eternal improved becoming.” (The Message, Vol.VII:128-148)
We must differentiate between the processes of solemnizing the marriage. ‘Incompatible marriages which are boon of satan, only effulges insanity and unbalanced mind’ and hence should be discouraged by all concerned in the interest of their nation and humanity at large.
Q (Mother of Ray Hauserman): Do the words ‘charity’ and ‘love’ imply same meaning?
Sree Sree Thakur: Charity means love-offering (prinana). One becomes happy by offering and pleasing Him. Love cherishes to serve. Real love is ever unrepelling—the opposite of lust.
Q (Mother): How do you interpret lust?
Sree Sree Thakur: Lust is expected love. Suppose I love you for a pen.
Q (Mother): Will it be proper to label the deep love between husband and wife as lust?
Sree Sree Thakur: Lust gives prime importance to one’s own comfort but in love, one desires to get happiness by providing comfort to the beloved.
The man with real devotion is generally quite unwilling to play the part of an advisor and signs of pleasure blossom on his face if he gets advice. Devotion can never enter the heart of one who believes little and worships many. Devotion loves many for One. Addiction loves One for many. In addiction there is gratification from self-interest. In devotion there is satisfaction from interests for others. Devotion is concentric to the Source. Addiction seeks satiety in self-interest or ego. Addiction is the wife of passion, and devotion is the younger sister of love.
Perform Marriage Near the Altar of Love-Lord
Where marriage is not performed near the altar of the Love-Lord bathed in holy waters as an emblem of sanctified love, the inner tinge of holiness which drives one with every sanctity of heart, —becomes confused and the existential trail and traits of the pair generally disintegrate demolishing in them the sanctity of love and service— that makes each other feel as one— with every destructive foolish crave.